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A friend posted this on the facebooks and it made my heart smile.

“You should date a girl who reads.
Date a girl who reads. Date a girl who spends her money on books instead of clothes, who has problems with closet space because she has too many books. Date a girl who has a list of books she wants to read, who has had a library card since she was twelve.

Find a girl who reads. You’ll know that she does because she will always have an unread book in her bag. She’s the one lovingly looking over the shelves in the bookstore, the one who quietly cries out when she has found the book she wants. You see that weird chick sniffing the pages of an old book in a secondhand book shop? That’s the reader. They can never resist smelling the pages, especially when they are yellow and worn.

She’s the girl reading while waiting in that coffee shop down the street. If you take a peek at her mug, the non-dairy creamer is floating on top because she’s kind of engrossed already. Lost in a world of the author’s making. Sit down. She might give you a glare, as most girls who read do not like to be interrupted. Ask her if she likes the book.

Buy her another cup of coffee.

Let her know what you really think of Murakami. See if she got through the first chapter of Fellowship. Understand that if she says she understood James Joyce’s Ulysses she’s just saying that to sound intelligent. Ask her if she loves Alice or she would like to be Alice.

It’s easy to date a girl who reads. Give her books for her birthday, for Christmas, for anniversaries. Give her the gift of words, in poetry and in song. Give her Neruda, Pound, Sexton, Cummings. Let her know that you understand that words are love. Understand that she knows the difference between books and reality but by god, she’s going to try to make her life a little like her favorite book. It will never be your fault if she does.

She has to give it a shot somehow.

Lie to her. If she understands syntax, she will understand your need to lie. Behind words are other things: motivation, value, nuance, dialogue. It will not be the end of the world.

Fail her. Because a girl who reads knows that failure always leads up to the climax. Because girls who read understand that all things must come to end, but that you can always write a sequel. That you can begin again and again and still be the hero. That life is meant to have a villain or two.

Why be frightened of everything that you are not? Girls who read understand that people, like characters, develop. Except in the Twilight series.

If you find a girl who reads, keep her close. When you find her up at 2 AM clutching a book to her chest and weeping, make her a cup of tea and hold her. You may lose her for a couple of hours but she will always come back to you. She’ll talk as if the characters in the book are real, because for a while, they always are.

You will propose on a hot air balloon. Or during a rock concert. Or very casually next time she’s sick. Over Skype.

You will smile so hard you will wonder why your heart hasn’t burst and bled out all over your chest yet. You will write the story of your lives, have kids with strange names and even stranger tastes. She will introduce your children to the Cat in the Hat and Aslan, maybe in the same day. You will walk the winters of your old age together and she will recite Keats under her breath while you shake the snow off your boots.

Date a girl who reads because you deserve it. You deserve a girl who can give you the most colorful life imaginable. If you can only give her monotony, and stale hours and half-baked proposals, then you’re better off alone. If you want the world and the worlds beyond it, date a girl who reads.

Or better yet, date a girl who writes.”

― Rosemarie Urquico

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I did it! I’m so proud of myself. I managed to not only finish the 30 book goal which I had set for myself at the beginning of the year, but managed to squeeze the 31st in just under the wire thanks to a very nasty and unpleasant cold reminiscent of the plague. I think I will try for 35 next year. What do you think?



Click the logo for a complete list via Goodreads as well as any reviews or ratings. A total of 10,883 pages read feels AWESOME!

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  1. A Christmas Carol – Charles Dickens
  2. Queen’s Own Fool – Jane Yolen
  3. Innocent Traitor – Alison Weir
  4. The Crown – Nancy Bilyeau
  5. Memoirs of a Gnostic Dwarf – David Madsen
  6. My Fair Lazy – Jen Lancaster
  7. My Lead Dog Was a Lesbian – Brian Patrick O’Donoghue
  8. My Life in France – Julia Child
  9. Great Expectations – Charles Dickens
  10. Little Altars Everywhere – Rebecca Wells
  11. The New York Regional Mormons Single Halloween Dance – Elna Baker
  12. Unicorn’s Blood – Patricia Finney
  13. Lizzie – Evan Hunter
  14. Little Women – Louisa May Alcott
  15. Under the Tuscan Sun – Frances Mayes
  16. The White Queen – Philippa Gregory
  17. Practical Magic – Alice Hoffman
  18. Anne of Green Gables – L.M.Montgomery
  19. The Red Queen – Philippa Gregory
  20. The Lady of the Rivers – Philippa Gregory
  21. Garden Spells – Sarah Addison Allen
  22. Pretty in Plaid – Jen Lancaster
  23. The Boleyn Inheritance – Philippa Gregory
  24. Crime and Punishment – Fyodor Dostoyevsky
  25. Dead Until Dark – Charlaine Harris
  26. Living Dead in Dallas – Charlaine Harris
  27. Club Dead – Charlaine Harris
  28. Animal Farm – George Orwell
  29. Curious Myths of the Middle Ages – Sabine Baring-Gould (10320 pages)

One book to go to reach my goal of 30 for the year…and over 10,000 pages read! Wow!

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